Italian Anousim Use a Three Branched "Menorah" to Light Shabbat Candles

Who says there is nothing new under the sun? I'm always finding something different when it comes to Jewish holiday customs.

Take this triple candelabra as an example. It is a family heirloom belonging to Rabbi Barbara Aiello who can trace her ancestry to the Anousim -- secret Jews -- living in Serrastretta, a tiny Calabrian village in southern Italy.

I recently had the privilege of speaking with Rabbi Barbara. She's a woman with a mission, and that is to connect the population of present day Serrastretta to their ancient Jewish roots. She herself began this journey in 2004, when she began living in Italy on a full time basis. The strange customs that were practiced by her grandmother  prompted her to engage on a personal exploration. For instance, candle lighting on Shabbat. Even though the family was living in Pittsburgh PA, her grandmother would go down to the cantina -- Italian for cellar -- every Friday evening to light Shabbat candles. Despite the exhortations of Rabbi Barbara's father that they were now living in the land of the free, her grandmother's Crypto-Jewish practices ran deep and her constant answer was "you never know."

The candle lighting itself was a beautiful ritual where the matron of the house first lit the middle candelabra taper -- called the shamash -- removed it, and handed it to the youngest family member who in turn lit her personal candle standing in its own candle holder, then handed it on to the next family member according to age rank. And so the ceremony continued. From the youngest it finally returned to the eldest,  who began the process and in turn ends it by lighting the left and right candles on the candelabra.

Indeed, a beautiful all-inclusive family ritual handed down from generation to generation, along with the 100-year old candelabra which has its own special meaning. Notice the peacock motif. It was traditionally used by Jews in southern Italy. When a male a peacock opens its beautiful feathers, the shape of an eye appears -- symbol of the Kabbalstic third eye that sees into a person's soul and provides inner peace.

A welcome thought at this particular juncture in our lives, ripe for debate.
May you find inner peace this coming Shabbat.

Dutch and Italian Jews Share a Haman’s Ear Custom

My friend Ida hails from Holland. When I told her about my research and blog dealing with Jewish holiday customs she eagerly added her own Dutch treat for Purim. “You know,” she said, “I never quite understood why Hamentashen stand for Haman’s ears. You have to go to Holland to see what a Haman’s ear really looks like.” Ida then proceeded to describe a family baking session consisting of dough dripped into a deep pan of hot, bubbling oil, carefully shaped to look like an ear. Once golden brown, it was removed, drained from oil and then sprinkled with confectioner’s sugar. Placed on a cake tray, the final display showed numerous ear shapes to choose from. “After all,” smiled Ida, “we all have different shaped ears.”

Being a pretty thorough researcher herself, Ida decided to Google the recipe. Here’s what she came up with. As you can see, the Italians share this custom as well. It’s more than a tradition. It’s an earful.
Hearty appetite and Happy Purim.